Learn to protect yourself and set yourself free

Protection

So what do we mean by protection and what are we protecting ourselves from......... the intoxication of our emotional responses!

In my last blog I discussed the best way to begin cleaning our thoughts, this is the first step of three

1 Cleanse

2 Protect

3 Restore

Step two is understanding how to mentally protect yourself and stay calm under pressure.

This is a very misunderstood concept. When we feel vulnerable we have learnt to react in different ways, unfortunately through the influence of society, our own ignorance and lack of education some of these reactions can be unhealthy and destructive. such as jealousy, negativity, aggression and attack. So how can we protect ourselves in a healthy way?....... Protection can only arise from learning mental strength with a strong application of positivity.

So where do we start?

Attitude.... and I don't mean walking around lean, mean and pouting, attitude is defined as behaviour that reflects a state of mind or disposition. The aim is to strive to have a positive attitude even in times of adversity.

It is the power to believe and stand by our convictions with integrity and compassion whilst trying to remain non judgemental.... simple right...... 

Well lets break it down in to manageable tasks 

1. Keeping things in proportion! How many times has a situation or rumour landed in our lap's, that in essence is very unimportant but has been blown up in to a mountain of an issue.... Stop and think before you react! Our immediate emotional reaction is not always the most useful. Staying calm and rational in these situations is important for two reasons

Firstly almost every time the issue is never really an issue in the first place, when the full details are examined a rational explanation is always present.

Secondly the more ration and clear headed you remain the more rational your response will be.

2. Do I need to get involved? Will it benefit me?........ probably not, do not give importance and energy to something that will not enhance your life and could potentially damage someone else's.

3. Every negative thought that comes your way, find a positive alternative... no matter how small!

For example some one in your office 'accidentally... on purpose' spills coffee on you.

Try not to asses why it happened, think ...lovely a five minute break from my desk and work load to freshen up.

4. Just because someone has told you that you are wrong and your idea is worthless, doesn't mean it is true.

Some of the most successful people in the world are told this on a daily basis but refuse to let them selves believe it.

5. If you want it badly enough with all your conviction, passion and belief behind you then it will be yours in one way or another. The difference between delusions and reality is the ability to push it through to the end.

6. Remain focused.... allow nothing to cloud your judgement and hamper your abilities....... This is something that can be applied to all areas of life especially if you compete in sporting activities. Remaining focused and not allowing your attention to wonder what your opponent is doing will keep you rooted in your task and strong.

7. Be honest........ with yourself and others. Be original ........this inspires confidence in your and in others

8. Do I have to say it again........integrity integrity integrity!